I understand basically what you’re saying. (Some of the specifics aren’t clear, but I’m not sure it matters.)
As I currently understand it, and I acknowledge that I could be quite wrong here, you have three choices.
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Define all email addresses intended to be used as the sender as gmail alias addresses in your gmail logon account.
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Use a different mail server for outgoing mail
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Acknowledge that what you want to do is not allowed.